H. Love’s Encoding in the Brain: Dreams and Imagination of Female Love
dreams and imagination of death, followed by an increase of cortisol(stress), followed by satisfaction(serotonin) of seeing mother, followed by happiness(dopamine), followed by closing down of the brain(GABA), followed by sleep(Melatonin), followed by healing(ROS removal by antioxidants), is the first event that is stored as the first memory of the brain. It is noteworthy that a child learns to differentiate reality much later, and so even though the hormonal changes are in the memory, the event is not stored in the brain.
Recall that fear is imaginary. Also, recall that a child can not distinguish between dream state and reality for 21 days. The child tries to correlate the primary women from whom the child sucks milk to the female persona in the dreams.
It is this fact that finding love often remains a fantasy and the love of life remains as the dream person of life. As females are more imaginary than men, their entire love perception is in their imaginary brain.
Therefore the man who can keep a female’s imagination wild can attract the female more. However, the more her imaginary brain runs wild, the higher anxiety she will suffer, and would need a higher comfort in reality, which then needs the practicality of a man rather than a man who drives her imagination crazy.
A man who is imaginary is an anxious man and one who is practical is often a boring man. A man finds it hard to be exciting imaginarily, at the same time practically boring.
Because Oxytocin is also our social hormone, a woman not only needs comfort but also a deep attachment. Therefore the man also has to have tremendous social capital and wealth(a social genius of some sort) to have the Oxytocin levels at a female desire for the bonding of love. However, if a man has to be socially active, then he will have less time for his partner. As the female also needs her father, who gives her the best attention, a socially successful man makes her crave attention, and now the man has to be socially active, as well as providing all the attention to the female and not the social cycle. If the man somehow masters this art also and gives a lot of attention to the partner, now the female needs her son also. So the socially powerful man has to become like a vulnerable small little boy too. But when the man becomes somehow small little boy, the female now needs her husband also, who is friendly to her, not her father or child.
So a man has to become socially weal and socially powerful at the same time, a father and the child of the female at the same time, has to be masculine and feminine(companion) at the same time, has to be rich and broken at the same time, has to be powerful and vulnerable at the same time, has to be comforting and dangerous at the same time.
All the best to the Youtubers and their followers for helping men with love. More luck to the gamers. Yet more luck to the attractive men. All the best to the “so-called successful men.”