F. Change of Love in a Man after he becomes a Father
Throughout childbirth, the anxiety of the father reaches to peak. The father is concerned about the safety of the mother and the child. He has to wait for the news. When the father gets to finally see the child, and holds the child in his arms, his Oxytocin levels shoot up, his anxiety falls down, and he experiences a strong hormonal change snapshot(though not as intense as that between the mother and the child). The child’s epinephrine remains high after the birth, which keeps its heart beat higher.
As the father holds the child, his anxiety reduces, and therefore heartbeat reduces. His high Oxytocin levels then attach the child to the father and the child’s heartbeat and epinephrine also come down.
If the child is a daughter, then high epinephrine not only keeps her heart rate higher but also keeps her anxious and afraid even after she sucks milk from the mother. It is only after the father holds her, that she starts experiencing less anxiety. This is another powerful hormonal change for the girl, that marks the end of the hormonal transition.
Therefore, Love for a girl is a transition from extreme fear of death to relief of life but in a super anxious state, followed by reduction of anxiety and heart rate when she is held by a man.
If the child is a male child, by the time the father gets to hold the child, the child’s epinephrine is already reduced, and therefore the child remains strongly attached to the female(mother). However, when the man holds the male child in his arms, this often raises the testosterone in the man. Higher Oxytocin and testosterone increase the Psychology of “Pride” in the man.
Once a man becomes the father of a girl child, the man experiences love as the reduction in his anxiety through a female, and when the man becomes the father of a boy child, he experiences love as an emotion of pride.
Therefore,
A guy seeks to replace his mother through his lover, and seeks motherly love; When he becomes the father of a boy, he seeks love in pride and honor; when he becomes the father of a daughter, he seeks love as anxiety of not seeing the daughterly female, followed by seeing her and holding her again.
So, a man who is not yet a father, seeks motherly woman and motherly love, a man who has become father of a daughter experinces love for the partner whenever his daughter is unwell, and when the man becomes a father of a son, he starts loving his partner as his daughter, but seeks honor and pride.