C. Love According to Movies and Novels
Yes, like, what is it? Is it desire? Is love just an infatuation? Is love a lust? Is love merely a gut instinct? What is it? Is it psychology, or physiology?
Less than 5% of the population is blessed with rational scientific reasoning. In the teen-age when one’s experience about life is almost nil, and in the age when love is actually experienced, love appears like a strong desire to be around one particular person. Psychologically, love in teenage is like, without this person, my world will be empty, and all my life’s problems will be solved if we both walk together.
In teenage, there is neither any knowledge of psychology(and even if some study psychology, due to lack of experience of life and lack of broader exposure to the complex social fabric of power hierarchy) love is pretty much an illusion, or delusion, or anything that makes a teenager feels alive.
Novels and Movies exploit this market opportunity to push down the throats of teenagers, a love story that is obviously and most commonly one of the four types mentioned above with variations of cast, creed, nationality, age, gender, social status, and blah blah.
So the movies and the novels portray love as:
The purest thing on the planet, the one that makes you feel alive, and that must be the primary pursuits of your life;
Movies, Drama, Novels, Webseries
Well, life is hard, and the world certainly appears harsh particularly in the teenage(and for a majority, for the rest of their life). Fantasy is a good escape from the painful reality of life. Therefore the more fantasy a love story can present to the audience(or the consumer), the more popular the story becomes.
And because the primary dose of understanding of love to the brain comes from the movies and novels, this early trait continues for the rest of the life for most people, whether they are aware of it or not. So for most, love remains a fantasy. (Therefore a lot of love marriages, that were supposed to have a happy life, meet a sad ending of divorce, as the dose of life was fantasy, but the experience of it in real life is completely opposite).
This narrative also supports the movies and novels that have to portray love as something crazy, where the hero or the heroine of the story sees the “soul mate” and instantly falls in love, and then the rest of the story is around being together with the person of “love of first sight.”
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What most people do not understand is that movies and novels are created to earn money, by exploiting your desire to escape reality into a fantasy and not to teach about about Love. Because most people get their brains trained with love stories from movies and novels, it often remains a delusional fantasy for them.
Nonetheless, everyone gets kind of some permutation and combination definition of life, which revolves around connection, attachment, attraction, pain, and pleasure. However, it remains a deep-rooted fantasy in most individuals. Those who get their love to the marriage stage need to work hard to keep the marriage. Those who don’t use the love failure as a motivation to grow in life with other false beliefs that once they are successful they will meet the love of their life.
The entire industry is created around the notion of love. Dating, gifting, self-development, psychological counseling, luxury brands like cars(yo baby, the bigger the car, the hotter the gal!!), wedding industry.
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When you keep people largely delusional, confused, and fantasized about something so fundamental to life, like love, you can fill the void with consumerism(Like use premium fragment and attract more girls, get slim and attract your dream man)!