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B. Type of common love stories
a. Attraction Attachment Love Story:
The essence of the definition of love has remained the same. When you look at someone, you immediately experience psychological and physiological changes. Your desires shot. You immediately believe that this is the person who is the answer to all the loneliness and sadness of my life. I must have this person. You kept looking for this person every day from that moment onwards and started seeing the desired person in your dreams. You finally meet the person. All seems fascinating and great. You immediately experience a connection, and you believe that you have fallen in love.
b. Interaction Attachment Love Story:
In some other variations of the love story, you first spend a lot of time with a person(a colleague, or friend). You experience a connection. You develop super understanding. When you compare your experience of interaction with the rest of the world, vs. the one with this person with whom you find greater connection, you think that this is the person who makes my life easy. Then you propose, and finally you believe that you are in love.
c. Desire driven One-sided love(the engineering college love)
This variation is like the first variation. This is more common in guys than in girls and is predominantly a teenage phenomenon. This being a predominant phenomenon in the guys is understandable because girls get all the attention in their teenage, and the world doesn’t even recognize the existence of a teenage guy(what does he have to offer to the world?)
In this variation, a guy sees a girl, instantly likes the girl, and dreams about the girl, in his dreams he marries the girl and has a family with the girl, but is run rampant by the fear and anxiety of rejection. So he decides that it is better to not tell, and keep the love alive, rather than telling and rejecting and getting crushed. At least in that way, I will have more time, and if my love is real(which of course is not), the girl will recognize some day(which she obviously doesn’t). So this love remains a strong desire.
d. Toxic Love
This is also like desire-driven love, but the difference is that the guy(or the girl), not only harvests the desire in the mind but strongly pursues the desire. The person of desire has no attraction and desire for the desiring person. So the one who “fell” in love starts following and chasing and clinging and begging and threatening the person of desire.
It becomes a battle and the person of desire becomes a trophy. This becomes the goal of the life.
The first variation is intense, which completely transforms you emotionally and physiologically. The experience makes you feel childlike. You think about the person all the time. Your imagination more than your physical reality helps you to strengthen the bond with the person. When you are into someone 24×7, that must be love, right? This is no different in the third, and fourth variations too.
However, the second variation is like “logical love.” The “lovers” convince themselves that this is the best thing for their life, (in reality better than other possibilities of love). Both do a lot of numerical calculations about future prospects and come to the conclusion that they are in love.