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J. Why we crave for love
So far it is quite obvious that females are born and biologically weird to not be satisfied, and men are born and biologically wired to try to satisfy the females, and both are born to seek love and not have it at the same time. If love is meant to be this confusing, this unsatisfying, this complex, and this no-satisfaction-guaranteed game, then why does everyone chase and crave love?
(Maybe God got envious of the humans and did not encode this genetic knowledge of love, or perhaps he might have encoded this knowledge genetically which systematically was eroded by the marketing of the greedy corporates)! But don’t blame the corporates for screwing love, even Aristotle was confused about love 2400 years back.
Now, let’s pay attention to why everyone dreams, desires, and craves for love.
The childish core of humans
The brain stores daily sensory data in our cortex section. During deep sleep, it pulls out memories from the cerebellum and contextualizes the day’s events, cleans the cortex, and puts back the relevant events after classification and clustering.
It is for this reason that when the brain sees a memory unit of early memory, with intense feelings, but no data, it puts a priority on the hormonal changes that we call love, and look for real-life event that will have a similar hormonal footprint as love. Whenever our stress gets to an extreme level, that is the time the cortisol footprint matches that of the footprint during birth. The associated proximal memories are all that of early childhood.
Therefore when we are under extreme stress, we become childlike and look for love.
Why does our child’s core never find the love it seeks?
Remember, the mother’s Estrogen in pregnancy is about 3000 ng/dl, which falls to 300 ng/dl with the placenta coming out. So the number of feelings(ocean of it), that the mother experiences when she holds the child for the first time, can not be experienced thereafter. So hormone change footprint the child experienced during birth can not ever be experienced. The child experiences love whenever it is hungry and the mother breast-feeds it, but that feeling is not what was like at birth. So, because of an intense hormonal footprint missing sensory data, the brain keeps looking for love.