G. A Woman’s Quest for Love
A girl’s experience of love is through her father, and therefore she seeks a fatherly love. She feels loved and alive whenever she is suffering miserably, feeling dead, feeling super anxious with a very high heart rate, and getting fatherly comfort from her man, who helps her to reduce her heart rate and anxiety, and makes her peaceful.
Insight💡
A man’s experience of love keeps changing throughout his life, but a female’s experience of love is always a fatherly comfort, and her expression of love is always a motherly care. With a girl child, a mother often becomes sibling-like in her psychological space, entangled in sibling rivalry and jealousy(which pioneer of Psychology Carl Jung termed as Electra complex).
On the other hand, the man feels abandoned when a son is born and suffers “loss of mother” and often becomes envious of the son(father of Psychology Sigmund Freud termed this phenomenon as Oedipus complex)
Ever since the beginning of humanity, men have remained largely confused about what women really want. The truth is, that women are more confused about their own selves. The woman needs her man to become son-like, and father-like at the same time. She needs the security and anxiety of the insecurity at the same time. She needs fear of death and relief of comfort at the same time. She needs to experience jealousy from another female and needs exclusivity at the same time.
And YouTubers want you to believe that love is all about 6 figure income, muscles, games, overcoming approach anxiety, and females are hypergamous and blah blah.
Let us not delve deeper into the emotional space of fear, anxiety, satisfaction, and relief to understand love in more practical settings. This is because you are not likely to go on measuring your dopamine and Oxytocin levels on a daily basis.