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What is meant by decision making
Not everyone has sophisticated cognitive abilities like Einstein, Isaac Newton, Nichole Tesla, and them. We have to take thousands of decisions daily(some we are aware of and some we are not aware of).
For instance, drinking a glass of water is also a decision. Whether you should drink cold water or warm water? Should you drink spring water or filter water? Should you drink water now or should you drink water after an hour? Should you drink water from a glass, or should you drink water from a bottle?
It is not always possible for the brain to collect every single piece of data and information, and take decisions every second based on processing such a large volume of data. If our brain has to process the science of water every time we drank water, then we could do no other work other than making decisions, as the brain would have consumed all the energy. (Under that circumstance, the total decision would anyways reduce as we won’t be left with too much energy to do anything, and thus fewer decisions, and this way our brain balances the effort put into the decisions).
Decision-making is simply deciding on if certain actions that you plan to take should be taken or not.
What is feeling-based decision-making?
Because when you are about to take a decision about a certain action, the action hasn’t happened yet in real-time, you imagine that action. Our brain has evolved to feel exactly the same way in reality, as well as in imagination.
📖Imagine a drunk father coming back home. He is irritated and angry due to conflict in his work. He comes and sees his son playing with a toy. He expects his son to study when he comes back home. Now he gets angry. He takes out his belt and suddenly starts beating his 9-year-old son mercilessly. With each swing of the belt, the tender skin of the boy kept getting red. The boy started screaming, crying, and begging his father with folded hands. The father kept beating him high and dry. As the aggressive father kept beating his crying, screaming, begging son in pain, the mother stood near the kitchen door with a smirk face, saying “good, you deserve it, I was telling you to sit and study, you deserve this beating,” and the boy nearly passed out.
How did you feel while reading the above lines? Did you feel horrible? Try to analyze your current state. Do you feel sick? Did you actually see the scene in your imagination?
You are not experiencing the event of a father beating his son in reality, it was just your imagination. Now tell whether the father should have beaten his child or not.
All of you would unanimously say “No, hell no, absolutely no, the father must not beat the little child”
A feeling-based decision making is simply imagining a situation arising out of your decision in your imagination, experiencing the feeling, judging the event based on your feelings, and deciding on if that future event is good or bad depending upon the judgement
So, when someone says “I don’t judge people,” know for certain that he/she is not sure about his/her judgment, but judges all the time. Because the brain can not take a decision without judgment.
