Why Do People Demand Kindness, but Perceive Your Kindness as Weakness?

Empathy

Empathy is the ability to decode one’s emotions and calibrate one’s expression based on the emotion as well as the feelings. Empathy is not judging the expression. Because any decoding is an exceedingly high brain activity that needs memory, knowing a person’s life completely, knowing all the stories of the person’s life, and the emotions.

Empathy also needs a high degree of functioning memory, because, at every frame of expression that one wants to decode, the relevant story of the person with all the frames must be loaded in the brain. Empathy also needs an exceedingly high degree of intelligence because that story and the current frame must be rationally analyzed in our brains.

Intelligence further requires a deep understanding of various scientific domains such as philosophy, psychology, social science, history, and literature, so that the brain can process the sensory data(called the subjective reality) through different objective truths.

Do you have good empathy?

Before understanding kindness, first, become more self-aware and see if you really have good empathy, which is good sensory organs, good observation skills, good objective knowledge, good subjective reality sense, good memory, and good analysis ability, followed by good literary skills to transform this entire process into a meaningful thought.

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Context Although we all have an understanding of what empathy means, there is no general agreement on a definition sufficient for scientific inquiry. The main problem in constructing a widely accepted definition of empathy arises from the debate about whether empathy involves recognizing emotion or experiencing it or both. With Youtube being flooded with so many […]

Once you know scientifically what type of empathy you have, you can come back and read the rest of the article.