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J. Why becoming successful in life also doesn’t satisfy and make people happy?
We already know that success is nothing but a story that has all the different events from idea to acheievements, and the high and low feelings attached to the success story.
There are two ways a story gives us emotion, a) While recalling the story b) While telling and sharing the story with the others
The problem is the way you get bored by achieving same goals over and over again, you get bored by ruminating same story in your mind over and over again. Anytime you think about a past story, you get into the imaginative brain. We know that staying in imagination for long period of time makes you mentally unhealthy.
The next choice is to share the story with others. Because we are a social animal, whenever we share the story with others, and we see emotion in their eyes, hormone Oxytocin, our social hormone gets released. This gives us the social happiness.
Why people congratulate you even when they are envious about your success?
We have already learnt that everyone has to continuously pursue goals, satisfaction and happiness in life. So far you have already understood that this quest itself is a fulltime daily work. No one has any time left for thinking about the others if there is nothing in it for them.
We are interested in someone’s success stories only and only if either a) We are part of that journey and are being acknowledged(being acknowledged gives us satisfaction) or b) We have something to learn that we do not know, but need in order to become successful.
Now let us assume that you got a job and you share a social media post “I am excited to share that I have got my dream job in Google,” no one is interested in that news, because it is your job, your dream, your achievement, and they have nothing to do with it.
People still congratulate you to appear as social and part of your success story. However, such likes and comments will initially give you some high, but at the end you will not care about it. This is because people are congratulating you without reflecting emotions to your success story.
What is social success?
Ofcourse we know that achieving success is not enough, you need to have people who are interested to listen to the success story, and who would get wither an acknowledgement or learning out of your success story.
We have too many learnings these days. The internet is full of “success stories” of how a poor guy achieved glory. We are infact overloaded with such stories which provides no real insights that can be beneficial for our own journey.
Even when you provide insights, and share true learnings of your journey, not many can implement them in their journey because every individual is different. Therefore the best possibility of becoming successful is by becoming successful as a group, alongside a lot of people.
There are 139 investors in Acculi Labs Lyfas project. So, as we are becoming successful, it is not my success, but success of all of us. All of us have our stories, purpose and reasons to be attached with the project. All of us have different emotions, and feelings for the journey, and so it makes all of us happy and satisfied. Therefore my and all our investor’s happiness and satisfactions are much higher than say an entrepreneur who becomes successful by establishing a profitable company.
Always remember,
1100 = 1,
but, 22 =4,
So, even if you put 100 times more effort towards your journey for the success, eventually that is only going to give you 1 unit of satisfaction. But if two of you walk together in the journey, and each put only twice the effort, the success, and satisfaction will be four times.