How to Use Robust Scientific Model Theory Rather than Opinions and Common Beliefs to Lower Negative Experience of Life?

B. What are Observation, Experience, and Events?

a. Observation

An observation is simply a contextually distinct event experienced by our senses, that our mind can separate from day-to-day common events.

For example, you hear a lot of noises, and people talking, but when you hear someone singing a song, you can immediately identify that it is a song, because the mind can find the context of rhythm and scale that is embedded in the sound it is receiving.

When you drive on the Indian road, suppose you see someone driving a red Ferrari. This is an observation, because a red Ferrari is not what you see every day on the road, and your brain can immediately distinguish a Ferrari car, by comparing it with other cars on the road.

b. Event

An event is simply a story in your life involving the observation that changed certain regular behaviors of yours.

For instance, when you heard someone singing a song in the street, unlike your daily routine of walking fast towards the office, you took a pause, listened to the song, got healed, and slowly walked towards the office. So observation of a song in the street became an event as it changed your daily routine.

c. Experience

Any event around an observation that changes the way you commonly feel about your routine, then that event with the associated feelings is called an experience.

For example, you might pick up conflict with juniors every day when you reach the office. But the day you heard the song, you paused and you listened to the entire song, you healed and walked slowly to your office, and you did not pick up any fights that day. Then this entire observation, event, and the good feelings become your experience.

On the other hand, if you saw the Ferrari while driving towards your office, and you felt bad about not owning a Ferrari, and you went to the office and vented out your frustration on your colleagues and the juniors, you might have bad and negative feelings about the observation and the event.

Why do we need a meaning and model?

We not only want meaning and explanation for the negative experiences but at the same time look for a continuity of life. Without understanding the meaning of what is happening to us, and why such things are happening to us, we remain confused and unsure of our life.