Why Orgasm and Ejaculation Are Important to The Man

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Context

When a child asks parents “How I was born”? The parents often answer “We prayed to God, and God gave us you”. In our society, sex from childhood is taught as something “dirty”. There is a significant amount of shame and guilt that is attached to the whole notion of sex. Sexual education in the schools at best is a joke, because the teachers who are supposed to teach are themselves part of the same societal system, carrying a degree of apprehension, and reservation about sex.

Females start menstruating from the age of puberty and therefore have early access to some degree of sexual awareness. In boys though, there isn’t much awareness that is available. Furthermore, there is virtually a Gynec clinic in every nook and corner, but not many Andrologists in the entire country. So, the boys rely on the internet, and Youtube, where such information is inaccurate, and they do not have the ability to separate misinformation from scientifically validated information.

This doesn’t stop here. There are other taboos that are attached. You can’t touch a girl. Having a relationship before marriage is considered not pious. Sex is for “bad boys”. One is conditioned to focus just on studies and career, and once one has a good career, the parents, mother in particular will look for a beautiful bride, and the boy would then have a sexual life. So, studies, jobs, careers, and good behaviors are all good, but sex is bad. Further to add to this, the boys are conditioned to “respect” women, and not feel sexual about women.

So, when the boy finally gets a sexual partner, he finds it very hard to get engaged in sexual acts. Years of conditioning, shame, guilt, “bad thing”, non-important thing, bad boys do sex, and all these shape the brain in such a way that, boys have it hard to have a good sexual life.

To get better at anything, you need to have the knowledge, the skills, the practice, the purpose, the confidence, and the competance. Unfortunately the boys today get none of this. And no, this is not natural. You can’t expect one to be good at something, without the above.

Result of Sexual Taboo?

Performance anxiety, fear of being judged if failed to satisfy, self-doubts and much such trauma gets into the mind when the guy gets into his sexual life. Even if he has an erection, many today either have a dry orgasm, early orgasm, or no orgasm at all. The fear of being judged “not a man” then starts inflating in the brain. As a natural response to any threat, the guy starts avoiding sexual sessions.

Porn feels much safer, as porn excites sexuality, and enables erection and ejaculation safely without any fear of being judged. The internet is now full of “no-fab” misinformation. So, here too, the guy gets confused, to cum or, not to cum? And so, the guy gets a condition called Anorgasmia.

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What Happens Before, During, and After Orgasm(or Ejaculation)

A comparative Neuroscience study has beautifully accumulated evidence from various fMRI and PET scan-based studies in humans as well as in rodents narrated the exact brain activities, before, during, and after an orgasm, both self, as well as partner induced. Without bombarding you with too many technical terms, let me try to summarize the findings in the easiest way possible.

In Men, the Visual centers of the brain (The Occipital Lobe) remain active before and during orgasm.
The cerebellum (Long term memory, reward, cognitive, motivational, emotional processes) remains active during and after the orgasm,.
Amygdala remains active and shoots during the orgasm. Amygdala also controls the flight and fight response in us.
Midbrain(Medula) controls the erection and emotional stimuli.
The frontal Premotor Area of the brain, that controls muscular and motor movements remained overactive from the stimulation to release.
Thalamus controls the interlinking between the motor movements and sensory data.
Hypothalamus acts as the interpreter between our Nervous System, and the Endocrine system and has the responsibility to decode the chemical-hormonal states as an electrical signal and vice versa.
The dopamine center of the brain(part of the midbrain) gets active after the orgasm and a lot of dopamine is released. Dopamine is also responsible for Neuroplasticity or making sure that the neural pathways are all connected.
The right side of the brain gets active, and the left side of the brain is deactivated. This means, that during the sexual arousal a man feels emotion and keeps the logical part turned off.
Plasma testosterone increases in visual sexual arousal clues and remains higher during the erection. This is reduced after the orgasm.
The left brain gets active only in the Homosexual arousal, whereas for Heterosexual men, the right brain gets active. So the emotional stimuli during sex are limited to the female counterpart, whereas the male counterpart gives stimuli from the logical brain.
The Insula section of the brain remains overactive during the whole process. Insula controls all the homeostasis functions of the body, by regulating the Sympathetic and the Parasympathetic branches of the Autonomic Nervous system. Taste, BP, fluid, pH, and all the vitals are balanced by the insula.
Out of everything, the anterior cingulate cortex (or ACC) remains most active, which has been implicated in several complex cognitive functions, such as empathy, impulse control, emotion, and decision-making.
The most common findings in all studies were Within the lateral temporal lobe that resides in the cerebral cortex, critical for language comprehension, hearing, visual processing, and facial recognition.

All right, so now we know that sexual function in men, starting from stimuli, arousal, erection, orgasm, and ejaculation literally involves the entire male brain, including the right brain, which remains inactive for most men in most other situations. Because sex and ejaculation involve the entire brain and need all major emotional, motor, and cognitive functions in men, prolonged lack of orgasm will have less neural connectivity in the regions right? So, prolonged denial of orgasm will lead to blocked pathways in the section of the male brain. That would then result in serious health condition as life progress.

Studies have shown that the effect of lack of regular sex and orgasm, will start showing its effect from the age of 40 in most men.

The implication of No Sex and Orgasm

If a man has an erection, but no orgasm and sex, then Serum testosterone will increase. This will result in baldness, and the prostrate has to store more Testosterone, resulting in a very high risk of prostate proliferation, or prostate cancer. High testosterone also is highly correlated to male baldness. So, if you are losing hair, you probably are having high testosterone and therefore your prostrate risk amplifies.
High testosterone levels are also associated with elevated cardiac risks, as testosterone increases the sympathetic drive in men. Therefore, a lack of sex and orgasm will elevate your blood pressure levels. If your blood pressure is abnormally high, chances are that you are not having proper sex and orgasm.
If a man doesn’t have the entire process from stimuli to orgasm, the dopamine pathways are blocked or impaired, resulting in less dopamine, which results in less neural connection across the brain. Dopamine is also important for pleasure and motivation. Drop-in dopamine sets you up for depression and memory loss.
Less right brain activation results in low Estrogen production, which regulates the mood in men. Therefore with less sex, you would suffer more mood swings. Low Estrogen levels will make you emotionally more vulnerable, which is again compensated by high Testosterone.
Prolonged memory loss, depression, and mood swings need a lot of energy. Therefore you will feel less energy. The body will get tired soon and often. Your metabolic rate will get slower. This will result in insulin resistance and eventual diabetes.
Lack of Amygdala connections to other parts of the brain, and lack of autonomic regulation will put your body under threat, and you will be reaction-driven. High testosterone will lead you to get into severe anger and conflict. Increased anger will then lead to hypertension in the cardio-renal axis, a renal artery in particular. Your kidney’s glomerulus will get damaged, and filtration of toxins from the body will be less and less, leading to ketoacidosis, and eventual kidney damage.
Your immunity will be compromised and you will be more susceptible to infections. UTI risks will elevate significantly.
Social acceptance needs empathy and emotions. Deregulated emotions would result in less empathy and more social anxiety. It will make you more and more lonely, which will eventually become cardiac anxiety, and will lead to fibrillation of the heart.
Lack of Homeostasis regulation, such as temperature, and pH will put your body out of balance and no medicine will be able to set this right. When the body is out of homeostasis, there will be less and less vagal tone activation, resulting in a low parasympathetic system, resulting in insomnia.

In Short, If you Do Not Have Sex and Orgasm

Your risk of Diabetes, Hypertension, Prostrate, Depression, Heart Disease, UTI, Kidney Disease, and Social Isolation would be super high.

On the other hand, if you are suffering from any of these, chances are that you are deprived of orgasm and sex.