Unsolicited Advice Post: Do not use “I am happy to share” Posts on Social Media
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Context
When you get a job, complete a post, attend a conference, are promoted, achieve anything small or big in life, you are engaged, married, have a child, made a profit, cracked a deal, raised funding, you, of course, want to share with others. “I am happy/excited/elated/proud,” etc., with people.
Such posts typically go with a photo of you, during or after the event, or just a random photo that you choose out of 1,33,55,88,99,891 photo collections.
Explanation and Justification
Too many people ask “why you did that/did this,” not because they are interested to know and help you, but because they are aggressive and are venting out their anger with “why.”
If you do indeed give such explanations and justifications, e.g., “would you come for diner tonight” someone asks, and your answer becomes “No BECAUSE I am busy with work.” The other person did not ask for the reason, but your habit has it to explain.
This habit comes when there are too many negative people around you, which includes you, as the negativity spreads.
Negativity develops right in early childhood, particularly because parents ask questions even when children go to pee.
Negativity
Essentially negative society is deprived of dopamine, and people are thriving for some dopamine hormone and want to feel good at any cost. Dopamine-deprived negative individuals who give too many explanations and seek too many explanations are, by core, governed by Jealousy-Fear-Envy-Hate-Frustration-Aggression Neuropathways.
Such a low-dopamine, high adrenaline pathway completely shuts the prefrontal part of the brain(about 300 gm of the conscious brain).
Because Pressure=Force/Area, stress increases as area reduces in the brain. Hence, such individuals often experience shooting pain, migraines, and headaches and have difficulty sleeping.
After seven years, this pathway is genetically coded, and one finds sleeping at night hard, and they go to sleep often late at night (after 1 AM)
Scinece of “I am Happy”
You can’t be happy; you can only feel “pleased” because happiness is an emotion that paradoxically will inhibit pleasure and will stop you from feeling excited about an achievement.
So, when you write, you get pleasure exactly at that moment. But others get an attack of “envy-hate.” People don’t feel good but write “congratulations” out of their habit. It is like you have to congratulate on the good news, which is morality, not feeling.
Consequence
When you see a lot of congratulations and “I am so proud of you,” you will again feel “there is a fakeness,” and your bad feelings will comeback amplified.
The negative feeling is persistent, positive is rare. By writing such posts, you make yourself more negative, others more negative, and you gain nothing.
Wisdom
If you live with feelings, you will be killed by feelings. Feelings are precious; preserve them with life.
Conclusion
Life is not about “being positive,” achieving, solving problems, success, excitement, hurt, and so on. Life is about meaning. Your brain only searches for meaning and gets frustrated when it can’t find meaning.
Because everyone wants to be an expert, no one has time to pay attention to the fundamentals in their busy rat race. So, people often use the words without even knowing the meaning or relevance of the words. So, when you use such words without knowing their meaning, understanding the science, and dynamics, without understanding the consequences, you suffer because the brain cant understands the meaning.
Meaning is a quintessential part of the memory encoding system in the Hippocampus section. Thus, slowly you see a reduction in your memory.
“I was rejected, then I struggled, then I succeeded” is a good model for you to completely destroy your brain because the very existence of your brain is to walk you through struggle. You cant be proud of peeing because that’s natural and struggling the same for the brain.
No one care for your achievement, struggle, or feelings, as most in society today can even feel. So, don’t write your own obituary with “I am happy”. That post is another nail to your feelings coffin.
