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What is Failure?
When you set a goal and achieve it, it is called winning or victory. If you do not achieve the goal, then that is called defeat or losing. Success is called a success if you don’t become anxious during and after the goal, either after winning or losing. Failure is called failure if you become anxious while pursuing your goal or after the journey has ended(either in win or defeat).
So, you heard it right, what people commonly refer to as success(that is, achieving a goal) is merely a victory, not a success. When someone does not achieve the target goal, defeat is not failure. So, people mostly mislead you with the definition of success and failure.
Once you complete the post, please read the following article to understand the science behind success.
What is Anxiety?
Anxiety is not certain about the present or the future and living in apprehension and worry. Biologically anxiety is the palpitation of the heart caused by uncertainty.
For example, you love someone but do not know whether the person you love also loves you. You are not sure if you should convey your feelings or not. Are you worried that the other person will reject you after you convey your feelings? (Example 1)So, the above scenario is uncertain. Your heart is pounding increases, and you remain anxious.
Anxiety and Victory.
All the major organs of our body are connected with a nervous system called the autonomic nervous system. The brain is the major organ of this nervous system, followed by the heart. So, if the heart is stable, the brain is stable, and vice versa. In anxiety, our heart palpates more, so the brain can not become stable.
Obviously, in any aspect of life, whether it is a job, sports, or studies, the stability of the brain determines our ability to win. Isn’t it? Because if the brain can not think properly, then how can it drive our body? And so, if we are anxious, the chances of our accident increase as we will not be able to focus on driving but rather will be thinking all the time in the back of our brain. So, because heart-brain stability decides the body’s stability, and the body’s stability determines our victory, success is nothing but 1/Anxiety.
Success ∝ 1/Anxiety
or,
Failure ∝ AnxietyAlso, anxiety leads to nervous system disorders, which is the starting point of most chronic diseases, including mood and sleep disorders. So, victory can not be called a success if you have anxiety because then you have illness in victory, which presents a threat to life, and therefore by definition, that victory is not helping in life.
What is meant by avoiding failure?
From the above equation, it is clear that avoiding failure means avoiding anxiety. We already know that avoiding anxiety means avoiding anything that is unpredictable.
What is the biggest unpredictability?
Obviously, biggest unpredictability human nature, isn’t it?
Therefore, if we could somehow make human behavior predictable, then most of the unpredictabilities would be gone, and we will worry less(for example, if we become more certain about the behavior in our example 1). If we worry less, we will not be restrained by a chain of negative thoughts. We will reduce our anxiety and, therefore, the chances of failure.
Remember. Success brings victory, victory doesn’t bring success;
similarly, losses may easily lead to success, and often eventually does, if you are not anxious and worried about the losses;
We remain uncertain about people because we fail to figure out what people really want, don’t we?
Of course, different people have different motivations, ambitions, goals, likings, and dislikes. But we all are born a child and then grow. Don’t we? So there is a child in all of us. And These children do not die even when they grow into adults because the brain has to remember all the good and bad things right from childhood to predict any upcoming threats.
Hence irrespective of who the person is, what their age is, and what their financial status is, there are some principle fundamentals each one of us wants, and they are so subtle that we are often unaware of our desire for them and weakness for them.
Now that you have understood what is the theory behind knowing what people want, jump straight to the next page to discover what people really want.
