How Society Manipulates Disrespects Mothers and Homemakers?

Why this post?

A. Cheap Remarks

If you are a homemaker, then the following are the questions your relatives and “self-proclaimed well-wishers” may be asking you all the time.

1. You are educated. Why waste your education sitting at home? Why don’t you do something?
2. How can you sit the whole day at home?
3. You are so lucky. You don’t have to do much work.
4. SPECIAL:- When we raised you, we sacrificed our everything for your education, thinking you would do something in life. If we knew you would sit at home, we would have married you at the age of 18 and would have saved our money.

Sounds familiar?

B. Lowered Self Esteem

So, after hearing such cheap remarks every day, you must be following daily self-talks?

1. Why am I needed? Nothing will change if I die.
2. What is my worth?
3. My life is worthless.
4. Am I born only to produce babies and cook?

Why are people hateful to homemakers?

Cheap people who have low productivity and self-esteem continuously abuse the housewives and homemakers for several reasons.

1. Homemakers are valued in all the social functions and they are in charge of the social functions.
2. Homemakers get ample of rest which is extremely important for women, whereas the others do not get nearly half as much rest as the homemakers.
3. Homemakers often enjoy a much better sexual life due to their proper rest and freshness, which is missing these days in nearly most of the other females in corporate jobs.
4. Females at home get much better fulfillment due to their continuous interaction with children, other females, elders and extended families, and are, therefore they live a much better socially satisfactory life.
5. Homemakers do also pursue their hobbies which is rare in working women due to lack of time.

Because others see homemakers as much happier, peaceful, joyful, fulfilling, valued, they become envious to the homemakers. Problem is most of the working women thought while taking the corporate jobs that such a job would elevate their social status and satisfaction due to financial freedom. When they realize that they are not nearly half as much happy as the home makers, they become envious and slowly that envy turns into a hatered.

Out of this hatered, they try to manipulate the homemakers and housewives passive aggressively by telling them that such females are losers, whereas the reality is it is them in the corporate who suffer from pain of daily work.

How valuable are housewives, and homemaker mothers really are?

1. Giving Birth to a Healthy Child and Rising a Healthy Child:-

a) Average cost of IVF baby to 5L.
b) Average Annual cost on an autistic child is $34,900 in USA. In India, this is about $12,000, or about 10 Lakh a month.
c) One in every 3500 working mothers’ children develop a Neuromuscular disorder.
India has about 13 crore working women. With the current reproductive rate of 2.1, our working females will give birth to 26 crore fresh lives. Out of the 74,285 children will be born with genetic disorders.
d) Average treatment cost of genetic disorders is $94,000 globally and $30,000 in India. That is about 24L.
e) So Indian working women cost 1776 Crore of the annual cost to society. You are saving 2L per month.

So by raising a healthy baby, you are taking the burden of this 1776 crore.

2. Health and Healing

i) Annual Societal indirect cost per chronic disease is 15,376/-. For a three-member family, this is 45,000/-
ii) By taking care of the family, you contribute 4,000/- pm.
iii) Average meal cost in India is Rs. 200/- per meal. For three members, just a two times meal will cost 12,00/- per day to a family. Self-cooking saves 85% of the cost. That is 30,600/-

3. Happiness Cost

i) Keeping a fit and healthy body after the age of 30 needs 2 hours of hard work. (Say 1500/- of Gym)
ii) A smooth, nourished, glowing skin post-30 costs about 3000/- monthly skincare treatment.
iii) Keeping nourished hair with the right estrogen balance saves you an average of 4000/- that would have to be spent if females don’t get enough rest.
That is 8,500/-

Without the right estrogen balance, a female will be high on cortisol, have low energy, and mood swings, causing mental health trouble to the entire family due to the ripple effect.
The average mental health treatment cost per Indian annually is 25k-40k. For three member family, it is 3,60,000/- per year. That is 30,000/- pm.

So how many in India earn 2,69,100/- per month?

Thanks for being such a valuable workforce in the country🙏🏻

Conclusion

Please remember, we have to serve society to rip the benefit of society. Some serve through companies, some alone, some through groups, and some through families and homes. Ultimately, what we get from life is equal to our service to society due to the simple rule of “equilibrium of energy.”

How one chooses to serve others is a choice by the simple rule of society, one who doesn’t will be able to rip the benefits. Benefits are:
a. Emotions
b. Time
c. Knowledge
d. Satisfaction
e. Relationships
f. Rest.
g. health

Focus on how you are serving society. Focus on your life. One life is barely enough to get even 5% of our potential. Invest 100% into your goals and potential, not on what others do.

Remember the law of discipline. It is easy to work 20 hours continuously but extremely hard to work for 10 minutes for 200 continuous days.

Serving society through healthy families and children for 70 years is a service that is hard for most in the current generations. If you want to be rich, by all means, chase those goals.

But to advise those who are already earning over 2.5L per month is your insecurity. And for the mothers and homemakers, if 2.5L per month in India is not rich earning, then what is it?

And now add other duties. Cleaning, organizing, teaching, representing the family in social settings, and taking care of fund reserve for difficult times. Often some people are so productive that when they compare themselves with self-proclaimed productive, they feel small. It is like a nuclear bomb sound. So heavy that no one can hear the sound.

Also, to mothers, here is proof of how inefficient and ignorant society is. You have cooked with the same passion every day, day after day. For how many continuous days has someone just appreciated this effort?

You are needed by society, the country, and all of us. You are an integral and irreplaceable part of the social fabric without which the systems will collapse. We can automate cooking, but where will we bring mother’s love, care, and emotions from? From where would one bring that smile when you open the door with the same energy and enthusiasm every day, taking away all our day’s tiredness with that one moment?

Men can clock 18 hours not only because they have high cortisol and testosterone but because we know that they will be healed every day in the evening, and wake up fresh, and won’t need medicines for muscle reconstruction.

Keep building the country, and keep healing us.

Rupam Das

Passionate, Accountable Student for Life